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Special Healing Topics
Energy Healing
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Human Energy Field
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Living with Grief
How to Survive the Death of a Loved One
Part 3: Tips for Helping
Yourself through Grief
Mourning is the
process of experiencing the feelings of
grief and adjusting to life without the person
who died. Mourning takes time and energy, and it can be difficult to allow
ourselves the space we need to mourn. It is vital, however, to our health and
well-being that we do this. It helps to know that powerful, overwhelming
feelings will lessen with time.
There are a
variety of ways we can be supported and help ourselves through grief and
mourning. Listed below are some of the most important ways, followed by a list
of resources for further ideas and support.
 1 -- Seek and
accept support. Support from others is one of the most important ingredients for
healing grief. A grief support group can be especially helpful.
2 -- Accept
your feelings. Allow yourself to roll with the tides of grief. Your feelings may
be different and more intense than usual. It's normal to feel all sorts of
strong emotions and essential to allow yourself to feel them.
 3 -- Express
your feelings. Talk about your loss with those who are able to be supportive.
Writing in a journal can also be extremely helpful.
4 -- Learn
about grief. Knowledge about grief can be essential to the healing process. It
helps us to relax about what is happening and gives us tools for coping.
 5 -- Nurture
yourself and keep yourself healthy. Try to keep a regular schedule and maintain
the basics of good health -- exercise, good food, rest. You may need more rest
than usual. This is the time to pamper yourself -- get a massage, listen to
relaxing music, take walks in nature, etc.
6 -- Pace
yourself. Avoid unrealistic expectations of yourself. Grieving takes time and
energy.
7 -- Involve
yourself in work or meaningful activity, but also leave time for grieving. It's
important to take allow time and space for grieving, but it's also helpful to
continue some meaningful activities and connection. The key is to not pressure
oneself about accomplishments and goals.
8 -- Don't be
afraid to have fun. Even in the most trying times, the capacity for humor and
fun can be present. It is not a betrayal of the loved one to be able to feel
some joy.
9 -- Get
professional help if needed. If you find that you are in great distress or in
long-term depression, individual or group therapy from a counselor who
specializes in grief may be advisable. You can ask your doctor for a referral.
When we are in
the midst of grief, it is painful and can seem overwhelming. It can be hard to
imagine that we will ever feel good again, but we all have the capacity to heal
from loss and create a new life without our loved one. I encourage you to learn
more about grief and read the stories of others who have survived the loss of a
loved one. You don't have to go through this journey alone. Others have
experienced what you are experiencing and are available to support you now.
Internet Grief Resources
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Healing CDs
Ease of Being CD
Guided meditations for centering and healing
Pure Relaxation CD
voice and music for total relaxation
Sleep Easy CD
guided meditation and music for sleep
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