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Riding the Waves of Change
Part 3: Getting the Support You Need
to Manage Change
In Part 2 we discussed what you need to do to become more capable of living with change, but if you are currently experiencing a challenging time, you need to take some "emergency measures". Limit your responsibilities, get extra rest, take time to relax, and ask for help. At these times, you may need to give others the opportunity to help you.
When I was caring for my dying mother, I was feeling overwhelmed. I had all 6 signs of being "change-challenged" (to the max), and yet like many women and people who care for others, I found it hard to ask for help. Finally one night I found myself crying "help me." Hearing these words coming from my lips, the obvious hit me. I had to let people know I needed them.
The next morning, I swallowed my pride and sent the word out "on the grapevine" that I needed help. I actually felt better as soon as I let go of the tremendous sense of burden.
Within 24 hours everything was completely different. Meals were arriving at the door, errands were being run, and I even was given a foot massage. Most of all I was feeling supported and discovered how happy everyone was to be able to support me. Many told me how glad they were that I'd asked for help!
When we get to the point where we have exhausted our own inner resources, then we need to turn to others. No matter how good we get a riding the waves of change, we need to feel we don't have to "go it alone."
The death of a loved one is one of the most challenging changes we face. Accompanying my mother in her dying process was one of the most difficult, yet rewarding experiences of my life.
Most likely you have a similar experience, and hopefully have learned and grown from it. I know I grew enormously from that experience. Not only has it been easier for me ask for and receive help, but other new skills began to grow from facing that challenge.
Read further:
Part 1: Understanding the Stress of Change
Part 2: Warning Signs of Being Change-Challenged, Qualities You Need to
Surf the Waves of Change and How to Develop Them
Relaxation Tools
Pure Relaxation CD
voice and music to relax by
Sleep Easy CD
guided meditation for sleep
Ease of Being CD
for centering and healing
